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Welcome to my very first post of #MyFriendAlexa 2020. This year I have already written about various aspects of Pandemic affects. Here bringing down the changes that have debunked many myths we held in our mind from ages on the name of social influence.
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Reality Check Of Relations
Bridging The Relations
The way Coronavirus roamed around the world by spreading and shrunken its wings at various locations. Instead, I should say through the phase from the Lockdown to unlock, I observed drastic changes in the diametre of human relations he made at the different stages of life also took turns. Let me take you a little deeper…
In the initial days month of March or April 2020, when people were just started to experience lockdown and coronavirus. House arrest becomes a lifestyle. With a handful of free time, we spent many hours calling our near and dear, close and far ones by Zoom meeting/texting/calling, etc. just to know about their well-being in the corona season; surprisingly, talked with someone very first time, but undoubtedly it was surreal.
Being extremely busy with our routines, sometimes we overlook the importance of personal talking to loved ones rather than texting in a group for general reasons.
Corona Debunked The Myth
As speedily unlock approaches after lockdown, we all started to get back to our works, gradually believing we have well spent our last 3-4 months in bridging the loose and lost ends of relations in and out of the city/country.
Here comes the reality check of bonds that I felt I made strong around me platter me much different taste during testing time. Some, of course, touched my heart to the core, and some opened my eyes for life, somewhere I patted my back for never considering them to the list of my loved ones. Adding to this for some, I thought that maybe Corona has made us learned many things like its good to take the “Haal Chaal” of everyone’s sometimes believing relations matters.
Sharing one of the small incidents that I had witnessed in recent months, which made me realize that not every people; we assume close is close to you in real, nor every group that I believed that belong to me have weight in their own name (So-called Whatsapp group’s with trendy names). Not to forget these tough times also helps you to identify the dearest and pure relations of your life.
This Ganpati Festival, I lost the eldest person of my family in India as per the ritual, unlike every year, we did not bring Ganpati to our home this year. To mention this, every year, we used to have a Ganpati celebration at my house; we all friends exchange images of our decorated Ganpati Idol in various groups for darshan. This year when the world was showering in the celebration, my family was mourning over the loss of one of my family members, sitting miles away from the whole family was another pain that was breaking us apart.
Noticing my absence from the group conversations for few days, especially on one of my favorite festivals, i.e., Ganpati Mahotsav, some genuine loving souls of my friends and friends cum family from around the world tried to enquire on me. Little did they know they checked on me in a voice of worry more than any excitement about Ganpati preparation, which has usually become the trend of every year, like doing Aarti and Darshan, on the last day emission of the Ganpati idol having refreshment together.
Whereas, in some places, my absence hardly matters. People who claimed to be very close to me for years, direct or indirect, chat for long hours after watching the USA conditions in media in terms of COVID 19 cases barely noticed my silence, paying condolences was far away even after knowing the tragic incident. This came as another reality check to me.
How come my absence didn’t affect them? Why they were calling me every week when they don’t have the etiquette to express a single word of condolence? Were they really worried about raising corona cases in the USA or they were just passing the time? We keep repeating the sentence “We are all together in this” Are we?
These questions got all my mind, but this minimal incident debunked my myth that texting, calling, zooming can not build the relationships. Real relations do not wait for lockdown or any crisis to check on you. It can feel your absence, emphasize your pain without uttering a word, without regular calls. Invest your time in preserving these priceless people in your life. This Pandemic taught us many lessons one is for sure-:
1). Do not fall for big groups, (keeping professionalism groups aside here) make your presence valuable in genuine group only.
2). Do not rush to catch all the glimpses of the world; make your world’s glimpses beautiful by the worthy people.
3). You can not be on the good-list of everyone; accept the fact. Understand the mantra of living happily. Invest your time and energy wisely.
4). Be ready to help everyone, be genuine to everyone, every experience counts learn from it, and move on.
5). Group activity is good, but it is up to you to decide ‘How much’ and ‘With whom’ you should get into. Taking selfies with friends rejoice us but making memories with true friends energize us.
6). Think about it once, Big group’s may move, and grooves can enlighten the party hall. Real relations illuminate life.
These small incidents in Pandemic once again strengthen my belief in “Quality Over Quantity“.
Stay Tuned for the next CHANGE that debunked another myth.
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