As a mother of a tween child, I am on the path of preparing my kid to be a good decision maker who could pick the right choice among the umpteen options. Whatever we say about the choices ultimately these choices are going to be the blueprint of our life.
Before heading further, I would like to share a quote by the former President of South Africa Late. Mr. Nelson Mandela.
“May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears.” ~ Nelson Mandela
I stuck this in my child’s room since I really want my child to understand the major goal of the process of making a choice, whatever or whichever option he picks in the future; he should be a torch bearer of his hopes only not fear.
Teenage is the age where, as a parent, we start losing control over the kids and offering them the guidance we have earned in these years. Although we begin cultivating the seeds of decision-making from a young age at the teenage the roots of the decision-making process go deeper.
So it becomes the need of the hour to give our child the responsibility for three main choices that are solely made by him daily. That certainly put the foundation brick of their confidence, and of course their sense of responsibility.
Here are those 3 choices:
1). Choice of approach to the problem
We keep telling our children that “every problem has a solution” what if we ask them to change their outlook on the situation, and try to change their reaction toward a particular action? This might save them from draining out ideas and the hassle of thoughts flowing in their mind. Let’s tell our children to practice this choice of attitude activity every day.
2). Choice of goals, the company around them
Let your child give the freedom to chalk out their goals. Make them understand how the right choice matters a lot while choosing a company/friend or people around you. You are your boss to decide with whom you would like to walk. How is it important to keep checking on you if your thought of reaching the goals is growing with the present company or not? Everyone must have some small cluster of meaningful goals to succeed.
3). Choice of words
Let your child know about their rights as an individual, for example, a right to say NO or ask for more or a right to express their views everything has their ways of happening within the boundaries of humbleness and respectful manner where they can proudly say #Itsmychoice. It can only be done when they accept what they are in reality rather than lingering between the act of pretending and pleasing.
Despite following a long list of do’s and don’t. pros and cons, cure and precautions in your parenting no one would be able to guarantee, there would not be a hurdle in the path. There would be equal chances of derailment.
Now, what next? Here comes another side of the coin in the parenting journey after the damage has been done.
Before reaching any conclusion, we must understand that teens’ brains are still not fully developed at this age, which helps them control their decision-making process until they become adults. And hey, parents keep in mind it is absolutely normal.
How to help your teen when they make a bad choice?
1). Listen to them
2). Tell them there is something huge to learn from the mistakes
3). Encourage them to rectify the damage or change of path if required
4). Revitalize their morale by sharing some similar stories
5). Do not discuss the same mistake, again and again, promote “Learn and move on therapy”
6). Ensure the security of their secrets
Have you ever been in a situation where uninvited damage pushed you to rethink your action plan? Do share your stories!
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